[ADT] Add DenseMap::insert_or_assign

[nikic]

It would be nice to add a C++17 style insert_or_assign method to DenseMap. It was previously added to MapVector in #71969.

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Author: Nikita Popov (nikic)

It would be nice to add a C++17 style insert_or_assign method to DenseMap. It was previously added to MapVector in https://github.com//pull/71969.

[cjkenn]

Seems pretty reasonable, I'd like to take a crack at this