Dont abandon payments based on the `payment_id` in an unauthenticated `InvoiceError` message (or any other unauthenticated msg)

[TheBlueMatt]

Filing this to make sure we get it, should be fixed in #3139.

[jkczyz]

Doesn't look like #3198 exists.

[TheBlueMatt]

Ugh sorry

[jkczyz]

We also shouldn't abandon when attempting to pay and erroring with a Bolt12PaymentError::DuplicateInvoice.